الأحد، 6 فبراير 2011

Seven Steps to Reach Your Goals

Successfully executing any personal strategic plan for change requires that as you develop Your plan, you effectively incorporate these Seven Steps for attaining each and every goal.

1. Express Your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.


For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. "Being happy," for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms.



2. Express Your goal in terms that can be measured.

How else will you be able to determine Your level of progress, or even know when you have successfully arrived where you wanted to be? For instance, how much money do you aspire to make?



3. Assign a timeline to Your goal.

Once you have determined precisely what it is you want, you must decide on a timeframe for having it. The deadline you've created fosters a sense of urgency or purpose, which in turn will serve as an important motivator, and prevent inertia or procrastination.



4. Choose a goal you can control.

Unlike dreams, which allow you to fantasize about events over which you have no control, Goals have to do with aspects of Your existence that you control and can therefore manipulate. In identifying Your goal, strive for what you can create, not for what you can't.



5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to Your goal.

Pursuing a goal seriously requires that you realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and that you create a strategy for navigating that reality. Willpower is unreliable, fickle fuel because it is based on Your emotions. Your environment, Your schedule and Your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you — long after an emotional high is gone. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Those temptations and opportunities compete with Your more constructive and task-oriented behavior. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course.



6. Define Your goal in terms of steps.

Major life changes don't just happen; they happen one step at a time. Steady progress, through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps, produces results in the end. Know what those Steps are before you set out.



7. Create accountability for Your progress toward Your goal.

Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want, when you want it — and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work — you are much more likely to continue in Your pursuit of Your goal. Find someone in Your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on Your progress.

When Someone You Love Has Hurt You

When Someone You Love Has Hurt You


























Sometimes the Hurt is so deep and remains embedded deeply within the heart of the person who was hurt, and they walk away from the relationship. Too often pride stands in between the person who did the hurting and the person who was hurt. Instead of trying to make amends and healing the relationship, pride takes over on both sides, and a once loving relationship is nothing but a memory. It doesn't have to be that way.






When Someone has Hurt us, it's all too easy to just throw our hands up and walk away from it all. That's the easy way out, but it's also the losing way. You and the person that Hurt you both lose out because you lose each other. But if we stop and ask ourselves why the person said hurtful things to us to start with, it could help the situation immensely.







Sometimes, though not always, a person will say something that hurts because they are stressed out or going through really rough times. They use us as bouncing board, Someone to vent their frustrations out. But rather than vent what's really going on, the stress comes out as hurtful words to us.











That’s it


It happens far too often. Words can deal a fatal blow to a relationship. People say mean and hurtful things, sometimes intentionally, to Hurt the person they Love the most. Once the words are out, it's impossible to take them back. The pain and Hurt is usually entirely too clear in the eyes of the person who was hurt.

Hurting words can come from spouses, best friends, coworkers, siblings, parents, etc. No matter who it is that hurts us, the fact is words can sting with a vengeance. Rather than hold on to something that's done and can't be changed, if we choose to let it go, chances are the relationship will heal and flourish.

some people

Some people
Some people want to die
some people want to live
some people want to take
some people want to give

Some people have family
some people have friends
some people love life
some people wait for it to end

Some people need the help
some people help the need
some people want to share
some people love the greed

Some people are weak
some people are strong
some people are right
some people are wrong

Some people are smart
some people are fools
some people are wise
some people need school

Some people have no mind
some people have no heart
some people keep us together
some people tear us apart



ten simple ways to be happy

State of Mind
Happiness is ephemeral, subject to the vagaries of everything from the weather to the size of
your bank account.


We're not suggesting that you can reach a permanent state called "happiness" and remain there. But there are many ways to swerve off the path of anxiety, anger, frustration, and sadness into a state of happiness once or even several times throughout the day. Here are 10 ideas to get you started. Choose the ones that work for you. If tuning out the news or making lists will serve only to stress you further, try another approach.






1.Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now -- the food, the company, the conversation.
2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine, tested 16 men who all agreed they thought a certain videotape was funny. Half were told three days in advance they would watch it. They started experiencing biological changes right away. When they actually watched the video, their levels of stress hormones dropped significantly, while their endorphin levels rose 27 percent and their growth hormone levels (indicating benefit to the immune system) rose 87 percent.
3. Go to sleep. We have become a nation of sleep-deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book -- and turning the light out an hour later -- can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.
4. Hum along. Music soothes more than the savage beast. Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness -- the same parts activated by food or ***. It's also relaxing. In one study older adults who listened to their choice of music during outpatient eye surgery had significantly lower heart rates, blood pressure, and cardiac workload (that is, their heart didn't have to work as hard) as those who had silent surgery.
5. Declutter. It's nearly impossible to meditate, breathe deeply, or simply relax when every surface is covered with papers and bills and magazines, your cabinets bulge, and you haven't balanced your checkbook in six months. Plus, the repetitive nature of certain cleaning tasks -- such as sweeping, wiping, and scrubbing -- can be meditative in and of itself if you focus on what you're doing.
6. Just say no. Eliminate activities that aren't necessary and that you don't enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the church bazaar and you're feeling stressed by the thought of running the committee for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.
7. Make a list. There's nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.
8. Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you're writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.
9. Garden. Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.
10. Tune out the news. For one week go without reading the newspaper, watching the news, or scanning the headlines online. Instead, take a vacation from the misery we're exposed to every day via the media and use that time for a walk, a meditation session, or to write in your journal.

 

๑ βŁặĉķ ỀЎěṧ ๑

๑ βŁặĉķ ỀЎěṧ ๑

Watching you walk away
Never felt as good as it does today
I'm sick of waiting for you to go
So...
This is the last time
I'll tell you goodbye
I swear I'll tear you apart
Rip out your heart
And watch you bleed
That's all I really need
To leave you alone
Like you left me
So sew yourself back together
And realize we never belonged together
And that we had something people die for
But now I clearly see
What's in front of me
It's not you...
And one last thing before I go
I just thought I should let you know
I've let this hate inside me grow
I'll remove my truth from your lies
And honestly I'm probably the only girl
In the entire world
.Who hates your black eyes





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~.. Balance Your Life

Hi


Balance Your Life


Imagine Life as a game.
In which you are juggling some 5 balls in the air.
You name them - work, family, health, friends and spirit.
And you are keeping all of these in the air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball.
If you drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four balls.
Family, friends, health and spirit are made of glass.
If you drop one of these,
They will be irrevocably scuffed or damaged or even shattered.
They will be never the same.
You must understand that and strive for Balance in Your life.



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